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Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark, The Danish Year

June: Danish pride, women in uniform, and the reverse Jante Law: The Danish Year Part 6

I’ve referred to “The Danish Year” before on How to Live in Denmark. It’s a series of events that are simply expected to happen every year in Denmark, even if they aren’t formal holidays. This year I’m going to try to do a podcast every month about aspects of the Danish year, and how they fit into the overall context of where Denmark is coming from, and where it’s going.

June is a glorious month in Denmark, the sun has arrived but the mosquitos haven’t, and it is full of special days, from graduations to weddings to the midsummer festival of Sankt Hans, where Danes meet to sing traditional songs before a giant bonfire.

Danes love a good bonfire, and kids are generally introduced to them in kindergarten, where small children gather around the big open flame in their play clothes.

The Danish National Day

June also includes the Danish national day, Constitution Day. The Danes are modest about this, there are no parades or fireworks or military fly-bys. A few politicians make speeches about how important the Constitution is, but most people don’t even get a day off work. And the Constitution has to share the day with Father’s Day in Denmark.

It doesn’t mean that Danes aren’t patriotic, or don’t love their country. Anyone who has received a Danish flag on their birthday cake knows that they do.

In fact, at some level, a reverse Jante Law applies when Danes talk about their homeland. Under the original Jante Law – which isn’t really a law, just a Danish cultural code – individuals aren’t supposed to think they’re better than anyone else, or smarter than anyone else, or that you have anything to teach anyone else.

Reverse Jante Law

Under this reverse Jante Law, as it applies to the country as a whole, there is a subtle belief that Denmark is the best of all possible countries, with best of all possible systems. It has plenty to teach the rest of the world. In fact, many Danes quietly believe that with time and education, everyone will want to be like Denmark.

In the meantime, Danes show their patriotism in subtle ways, supporting the national sports teams – not just soccer or football, but handball, badminton, and both the men’s and women’s teams.

They display beautiful Danish design items in their homes, like Georg Jensen silver pitchers and bowls.

Patriotic sustainability

They try to buy only Danish meat in the supermarket – because they believe the animals are treated better. Danish vegetables have fewer, or at least better, chemicals, they believe. That’s why you pick the cucumber with the Danish flag on the wrapper. Or, in June, the wonderful fresh Danish strawberries.

Danes show patriotism with their passion for sustainability, the environmental agenda to protect their lovely, flat land.

They support the green transformation with electric cars, by carefully recycling everything they can, and by using renewable energy, preferably Danish wind energy, although there’s always electricity from Norway as a backup.

Norwegian electricity, cheap goods from China, a defense umbrella from the United States, all the things that make Denmark one of the happiest countries in the world.

More time in uniform

This June, however, the Danes are a little nervous, due to a spat with the US over Greenland, as well as the ongoing war in Ukraine. Danish politicians talk a lot about beefing up the Danish military, although there’s no clear idea of how to pay for that. Nobody wants higher taxes, and nobody wants to cut social services.

In the meantime, what they have beefed up is the amount of time Danish military draftees have to spend in uniform – from four months to 11 months.

And, as of the end of this month, girls who turn 18 can be drafted into the Danish military.

Gender equality

This is new, even though girls in Norway and Sweden have been eligible for the draft for some time. Denmark is proud of its record on gender equality, so maybe it’s a wonder it hasn’t happened sooner.

After all, more than half of the medical doctors in Denmark are female. More than half of the priests in Denmark are female. The prime minister is female. At only about 10% female, the military is clearly lagging behind.

“Defense Day”

The way the military draft in Denmark works is like this: Boys, and soon girls, who have just turned 18 are invited to an obligatory “Defense Day” where their physical and cognitive abilities are tested. If these are satisfactory, you get a lottery number, and if the Danish military doesn’t get enough volunteers to meet its needs, you will be called up.

In recent years, there have been plenty of volunteers, so getting enough people hasn’t been much of a problem. And getting into the Royal Life Guards, real-life soldiers who also protect the Danish Royal Family, remains very high status. It’s where Denmark’s future powerbrokers meet each other.

Diversity in the military

In 2023, there were about 5000 volunteers, and roughly 25% of them were female. At least in peacetime, the forces have attracted many young women who are athletes, almost as if it were a very disciplined form of an extreme sports challenge.

But very few stayed in the forces after their four months were up, moving up the ranks. Mette Frederiksen, Denmark’s female prime minister, has said she wants more career female military officers.

There’s also the question of diversity. People of non-Danish ethnic origin make up at least 15% of Denmark’s population under age 25 – but less than 2% of the military. Shouldn’t they have to serve too?

What is this country?

Any national day brings up questions of “what is a country” and “what is THIS country.”

Many people would say that Denmark is about community, shared values, cultural heritage, and a quiet pride in this little boat adrift on the big ocean of the world.

The June holiday that expresses that is less Constitution day than the other June holiday, Sankt Hans, the midsummer festival.

Gathering around the bonfire together, singing old songs together, enjoying nature, and the midsummer light. That’s some of the best of Denmark has to offer. And at least in June, there aren’t too many mosquitos.


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Image created by Kay Xander Mellish via Midjourney, inspired by the Danish painters Vilhelm Lundstrøm and CW Eckersberg.

Dating, Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark

Romance in Denmark

I talk a lot in my speeches about how people bring their own work culture with them when they come to work in Denmark, but they also bring their own dating culture.

The way you expect to meet a potential partner, to flirt, to show you’re serious, to take the relationship to the next level, these are expectations you bring with you to Denmark from your home culture.

When you get here, you will meet Danes who have very different expectations.

Romance in Denmark

Denmark’s doing a big recruitment campaign now, trying to get young professionals to bring their skills to Denmark, and a lot of them are single when they arrive.

If they want to meet someone and don’t meet someone, and if they want a serious relationship and a family but can’t get started, they often go home again.

So, in the name of economic development, here are my tips on romance in Denmark.

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Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark, Travels in Denmark

Tivoli vs Bakken: How two amusement parks show the two sides of Denmark

It’s spring in Denmark. The sunny days are longer, the daisies are popping up through the grass, and the sidewalk cafés are full again, even if you have to sit there with a blanket, which many cafés provide.

And Denmark’s amusement parks are opening up for the summer. Denmark has several amusement parks, including the original Legoland, but the ones I know best are the ones in Copenhagen – Tivoli Gardens and Bakken.

Tivoli and Bakken show two different sides of the Danish character.

Tivoli is the sleek, confident, high-end image that Denmark likes to present to the world: it has exquisite flower gardens, fancy shops and restaurants, and a theater that hosts world-class performers. Bakken is more homey, more quirky, a little shabby, and a bit more hyggelig, under my own definition of hygge as “unambitious enjoyment”.

The difference between the two parks also illustrates the class differences in Denmark – even though Danes like to pretend there are no class differences in egalitarian Denmark.

Visiting Bakken

Bakken is clearly the more working-class of the two and opens every year with a huge convoy of thousands of motorcycles roaring through the city. It happens every April – I hear a huge mechanical growl in the distance, and then I realize, ahhhhh, Bakken is opening today.

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Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark

The secret trick for practicing spoken Danish

Newcomers to Denmark often complain that the locals aren’t chatty. They don’t want to converse on the bus, or on the train, or in line at the supermarket, or really anyplace that isn’t a designated social zone. Like the company canteen at lunch, or a dinner party at home to which they have invited a precise number of people to match the number of chairs that they own.

In general, Danes rarely talk to strangers unless they are drunk, but there is one exception: Danish people over 75 years old.

Danes over 75, or even 70 or 65, often live alone, and they are often eager for conversation. There is even a special municipal program called Elderlearn that matches older Danes with newcomers who are eager to improve their spoken Danish abilities. The internationals get to practice speaking Danish, and the older person gets some company.

Comic situations

This does create some comic situations. I remember seeing a video – one of those videos I saw online years ago and haven’t been able to locate since – in which a nice fellow from India was matched with Kirsten, a Danish lady in her 80s.

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Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark

Gender equality in Denmark: A story of mixed results

Denmark has had two female prime ministers and about forty percent of the people elected to the Folketing, the Danish Parliament, are women, which one might think is a good indicator of gender equality in Denmark.

But when it comes to private industry, Danish women have one of the lowest participation rates in management in Europe. According to the OECD, only 26.9% of managers in Denmark are female, compared to 40.7% in the US.

It’s not unusual to see a senior management team made up entirely of Danish males, with perhaps a Swedish or German male thrown in for diversity.

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Stories about life in Denmark, Working in Denmark: Danish Business Culture

Finding a job in Denmark as a foreigner: Some tips from my experience

If you’re a foreigner, finding a job in Denmark is not easy, but it can be done. It depends a lot on what you can do. And what you can do better than a Dane. Because, let’s be frank here, if all things are equal between you and a Danish person, they’re going to hire the Danish person.

The Danish person knows the language, the Danish person knows the culture, the Danish person knows not to bring Brie cheese to the Friday shared breakfast. In every Danish office I’ve ever worked in, there’s been a Friday shared breakfast, and they always eat exactly the same cheese. Sliced, medium-sharp Riberhus Danbo cheese.

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Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark

Nudity in Denmark: The naked truth

The relaxed approach to nudity in Denmark can be a surprise for many newcomers.

It’s something they’re often confronted with at the local swimming hall, where a very large and strong attendant insists that they take off their entire swimsuit and shower thoroughly before going into the pool.

Stripping off in front of strangers is new for a lot of internationals, and some try to place it a larger context of Danish morality.

It hasn’t been entirely forgotten that Denmark was the first country in the world to legalize pornography in 1967. Some people still think of Denmark as a place where there is easy sex available and a generous display of naked boobs and butts.

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Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark

Danes and Spring: Hot wheat buns and highly-educated drunks

 
It’s spring in Denmark, and spring is by far my favorite season here. The wonderful white Scandinavian sunlight is back after the dark days of the winter, the flowers are coming out on the trees, and everybody’s in a good mood. The outdoor cafés are full of people again – sometimes draped in blankets to keep warm, but outside all the same.

April and May are often the best months for weather in Denmark, along with September. Summers can be rainy. And April is when Tivoli opens in Copenhagen. (Side note: when you see a man in Denmark with his trousers accidentally unzipped, you quietly inform him “Tivoli is open!”)

Tivoli is one of the world’s great non-disappointing tourist attractions – it’s constantly updated, with new shops, new rides, fresh flowers and fresh restaurants. And in the spring, it’s not as crowded as it is in the summer. You can hang out all day, have a picnic, ride the rollercoaster, even hear some bands play.

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Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark, Working in Denmark: Danish Business Culture

Job Hunting in Denmark Part 2: Putting together your Danish cv

I’ve applied for jobs in Denmark and been hired; I’ve also been the person doing the hiring and sorting through applications.

Here’s the truth: It’s really no fun on either side. On the applicant side, you can feel like a beggar, desperate for someone to recognize and reward your talent. It wears on your confidence, particularly in a long hiring process, which is common in Denmark even for Danes.

And on hiring side, you’re facing a huge stack of applications, mostly from people who know nothing about the company, nothing about the job, and are sending you a standardized letter or cv that gives no indication about why they’re a good fit.

For example, when I was hiring for a copyediting position at a financial company in Copenhagen, I got a letter in flawless English from an Eastern European woman who was a display artist at IKEA. She put together the sofas and pillows to give the imitation living rooms a chic and homey atmosphere. It’s noble work, but it had absolutely nothing to do with the job we had advertised, and she’d given no indication of how her skills would transfer.

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