The Danish Brick
Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark

The Danish brick


If you drive out of Denmark, across the Øresund Bridge into Sweden, you’ll immediately notice two things.

One, there are a lot fewer bicycles, even in big cities like Stockholm and Malmö that have bicycle lanes. Sweden’s more of a car country.

Two, you’ll see small wooden houses all over the countryside, almost always painted red. The red is called Falun Red, and the iron that makes it red was originally a byproduct of the local copper mines.

The wood for the houses comes from Sweden’s big forests.

Denmark doesn’t have many wooden houses. Its forests are small.

What Denmark has is brick. The Danish brick.

95% of Danish houses have brick facades

About 95% of Danish single-family houses have brick facades, and so do most Danish churches, and schools, and city halls. Sometimes the bricks are hidden behind whitewashing, but they’re still there.

The brick’s only real competition is concrete. The new apartment blocks going up in the trendy cities often have concrete facades, but even there, developers sometimes cover those facades with flat little tiles that look like bricks.

Bricks were known as monk stones

Danish people like bricks.

And this affection goes all the way back to the 12th century, when bricks were known as monk stones, munkesten, because it was primarily monks who made them. Denmark had a lot of cloisters and monasteries at the time.

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Danish bakeries in Denmark Bakeries and the Danish soul
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Bakeries and the Danish soul

Fifteen or twenty years ago, bakeries in Denmark seemed to be dying.

They couldn’t find staff. Nobody, it was said, wanted to get up in the middle of the night and make bread.

The few bakeries that were left tended to have dirty windows and sour service and offer stale, dusty pastries.

Most Danes made their breakfast bolle at home or got frozen buns from the supermarket or gas station.

I remember a text about gas station buns at one of my early Danish language textbooks.

Destination bakeries

But the trend has turned, and bakers and bakeries are now some of the hottest businesses around.

People will wait in line outside the Juno bakery in Copenhagen, or Bakeria in Helsingør. These are destination bakeries.

And this is not just a big city phenomenon. There are craft bakeries all over Denmark. This year’s Best Bakery contest has 80 nominees from Aalborg to Rønde to Jyderup to Karrebæksminde.

Baking is macho in Denmark

Perhaps it is a coincidence, but the trend turned when baking became a rather macho enterprise in Denmark. Claus Meyer was the pioneer, with his Meyers Bageri.

Baking became a way for Danish men, who are generally gentle fellows, to show their creativity and skill. This is a culture that respects craft and handiwork, whether it is furniture making or beer brewing or silversmithing, or producing a beautiful bun.

An acquaintance of mine recently ran a baking course for teenagers, and all of the sign-ups were boys.

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In the Media

Kay Xander Mellish Featured in Simply Scandi Magazine

I love a glossy magazine, and Simply Scandi is a good one, with 100+ pages of gorgeous Nordic design. I was very pleased to be profiled by them in their autumn edition, “Your Guide to the Hygge Season.”

We talk about Danish culture, how I help Danes and internationals work better together, and about Copenhagen Nordvest, where I live. Utterslev Mose is a great place for an autumn nature walk, with more than 280 species of birds to look for.

We discuss the How To Live in Denmark podcast, now entering its 14th season, and how people often come up to me and say it has helped them adjust to life in Denmark. This means a lot to me.

And we also touch on my latest book, 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐘𝐞𝐚𝐫: 𝐓𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐬, 𝐐𝐮𝐢𝐫𝐤𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐑𝐡𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐦𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐃𝐞𝐧𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐤. (Now available on Google Books, Apple Books, and Saxo Books, in addition to Amazon Kindle.)

You can get your own copy of Simply Scandi magazine at simplyscandi.com. Well worth the price!

newcomers to copenhagen, made with Midjourney by Kay Xander Mellish
Podcasts, Stories about life in Denmark

13 Quick Tips for Newcomers to Copenhagen

Since I’ve lived in Denmark for some time, it can be hard to get in the headspace of a newcomer.

But that was my assignment recently when I spoke to a couple of hundred new students at the University of Copenhagen, who had just arrived in Denmark the day before.

I thought that some of these tips might be useful to you, my podcast listeners.

So here we go, lightning round, word association style.

Get an ugly bicycle in Copenhagen

Bicycle. When you arrive in Copenhagen, get one quickly, and get an ugly one. Don’t get a fancy one that is exciting to thieves. Denmark has a bicycle culture, but it also has a big bicycle theft culture.

A good option is a second-hand bike, but get it someplace legit, because if you get it from some random online you might find yourself riding someone else’s stolen bike.

Biking gives you freedom, it can take you anywhere at any time in any season in Denmark. And if you don’t know how to ride a bike, the Danish Red Cross has free classes for adults.

Yes, you do have to pay for public transport in Denmark

Transport tickets. There are no fare gates on the Danish metro or bus or train. You’re just trusted to buy a ticket.

However, there are controllers that go around and check, and if you don’t have precisely the right ticket when they check you, you will get a big fine.

Don’t bother with a dramatic story about how you didn’t understand the ticket system because you’re an innocent child from a faraway land.

Don’t cry. It doesn’t work, I’ve tried.

Keep your dignity, pay the fine, and then if you think it’s unfair, email the transport company. You can often get the fine reduced, in particular if it’s your first fine.

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Copenhagen vs. Berlin, by Kay Xander Mellish
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Copenhagen vs Berlin

When I checked into my hotel on a recent trip to Berlin, I was surprised to find a little shop next door called Hygge. It was a Danish theme store, right in the middle of the German capital city. It had soft pillows, candles, wooden figurines, and other home items designed to create a cozy Copenhagen atmosphere in the raw rough streets of Berlin.

Of course, it’s not uncommon for one city to have tiny tributes to a different city. After all, Copenhagen has a Berlin Bar, and a clothing store called New Yorker, and an Old Irish Pub. But it inspired me to compare the two cities, Copenhagen and Berlin, two national capitals which are relatively close – less than an hour’s flight – but very different in spirit.

Kay Xander Mellish young in Berlin

In my youth in Berlin

Those of you who have followed me for a while know that I used to live in Berlin, long before I lived in Copenhagen. This was when I was young and pretty, so quite some time ago, and at the time Berlin was a demilitarized zone, which meant that military draft notices could not be sent there.

That meant that a lot of young German men from around the country chose to live in Berlin as an alternative to joining the army, which meant that the male-to-female ratio at any party was very much in my favor.

Copenhagen vs Berlin

Berlin was fun and exciting then, and it’s fun and exciting now. It has much more of a nightlife scene than Copenhagen, being one of the capitals of techno music, and more of a classical culture scene too.

Berlin has eight symphony orchestras and three opera companies, in part because in the days when the wall was up and the city was split into West Berlin and East Berlin, there had to be an opera company on both sides, and symphony orchestras on both sides.

Berlin also has two zoos, one in the West and one in the East.

Copenhagen has one opera company, and one zoo.

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Brok: The Danish Art of Petty Complaints
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Brok: The Danish art of petty complaints

We’re having a heat wave in Denmark now, and this is a country that is not really built for it. There’s very little air conditioning outside of movie theaters and shopping malls. Danish homes are built to keep heat in, not out.

So on a hot day, especially on a hot day when you can’t get away to the nearest body of water – you’re never too far from the coast in Denmark – can make you feel heavy and lazy, unwilling to cook anything to eat, unable to sleep at night.

These are the perfect conditions for brok.

Complaining as a social activity

Brok rhymes with clock, and it is a Danish word that describes the petty complaints that are common in one of the happiest countries in the world, and one of the richest.

It’s complaining as a social activity, usually about things that are more irritating than dangerous.

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Danish summer light
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Authenticity and the Danish summer light

These are the light times in Denmark. In summer, it’s light until around 10 or 11 in the evening and then the sun is back around 4am.

It’s a nice contrast to the dark times in winter, although all that light can make you feel a bit jittery and overstimulated.

It’s also one of the few times a year that the Danes close their curtains. They do that so the first rays of sunshine won’t wake them up at a painfully early hour.

At other times of the year, the curtains to homes and apartments are often wide open, and visitors to Denmark are sometimes surprised that they can see right into people’s homes as they eat dinner or watch TV.

Keeping curtains open makes sense for the darker times of the Danish year when you’re desperate for as much sunlight as possible. But it’s also a sign of confidence in who you are and what you are presenting to the world, that you have nothing to hide. This is me. This is who I am.

Warts and all

Authenticity is a basic Danish value, just like trust and transparency and having a sense of humor about yourself. Denmark is not a status culture, it’s not a place where you fake it until you make it. It’s a place where you’re expected to present yourself warts and all.

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Everyday life in Denmark book the Danish Year
Books, Stories about life in Denmark, The Danish Year

New Book! The Danish Year, 12 Months of Customs, Quirks, and Rhythms of Everyday Life in Denmark

Why do Danes “hit a cat out of a barrel” in February, set a single candle in the window in May, disappear for three weeks in July, and set out a bowl of porridge for a mythical “nisse” in December?

What are the aspects of the Danish year that aren’t on any calendar?

You’ll find the answers to these questions and so much more in our new book, The Danish Year: Twelve Months of Customs, Quirks, and Rhythms of Everyday Life in Denmark, available exclusively on Amazon Kindle for only DK35/USD 5.

(If you don’t have a Kindle, you can still read this short book on your tablet or phone using the Kindle app.)

Why is this book electronic-only?

After more than 10 years of putting out print books, I’ve chosen to debut this one as electronic-only on Amazon Kindle.

Why?

🔴 It’s short – only 89 pages – and going online allows me to sell it at a modest price that’s within most people’s budgets. And online publication allows for color illustration, which would make a print book very expensive.

🟡 Short books fit the way people read now. Our attention spans are fractured, sadly, and as a passionate reader myself, I have plenty of half-read books around the house.

The Amazon Kindle app allows people to read the book wherever and whenever they have time, on their tablets, phones, and or Kindle readers if they have one. (I do.)

🔴 Online books can be revised as circumstances evolve. Although this book isn’t really a news book, small facts do change (such as the name of the Danish prime minister), and it’s nice to be able to revise information that would otherwise make the book look dated.

New strategy

My new strategy is this: as opposed to writing one big book every few years (How to Work in Denmark, my previous book, came out in 2022) I plan to write 1-2 short books per year.

Some will also be published on paper, and some will just live online as part of my new “𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐃𝐞𝐧𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐤 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐬” series on Amazon.

Two Danish friends drink a beer by the water
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The Scheduled Dane: Why Friendship Needs a Calendar

People who move to Denmark often complain that Danes are not spontaneous. Trying to strike up a conversation with someone in the street or on public transport is usually a non-starter. Even when you know people, getting together has to be planned well in advance. Calendars fill up quickly.

There’s an old joke that if two Italians meet in the street, having not seen each other in a long time, they’ll go get a spur-of-the-moment cup of coffee and catch up.

Two Danes run into each other – they’ll both reach for their calendars and figure out when, in the near future, they might have time to catch up.

What about next Thursday afternoon after work and before dinner? No? How about the following Wednesday?

Spur of the moment beer by the water

The only exception is spring. This time of year, when the snow is gone and the buds finally start to come out on the trees, an unexpected afternoon of sunshine is a great excuse to toss aside all of your pre-existing plans and go have a beer by the water.

And there is almost always a place to have a beer by the water, wherever you are in Denmark.

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Danish dinner party customs, image by Kay Xander Mellish 2026
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Why it’s OK to break your Royal Copenhagen porcelain

Some might say that the most Danish piece of furniture is the chair. The Swan Chair, the Egg Chair, the Wishbone chair. They’re all international design classics. You can buy a poster with 100 of the top Danish chairs, and if you go to Designmuseum Danmark there is a hall of chairs you walk through, the display cases stacked three high. Chairs, chairs, everywhere.

But I think the most Danish piece of furniture is the table. It is where traditional Danish cuisine is enjoyed, and sitting around the table, and sitting and sitting and sitting there for hours after a long meal, is where hygge reigns and people are included – or excluded, as the case may be.

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